Mothers Guilt, it affects us all, especially when we do things with our own needs in mind.
It is time us mamas woke up to the fact that putting ourselves first is not just beneficial for us but for our family too!
Just as the safety talk goes before the aeroplane takes off, if there is an emergency, put YOUR oxygen mask on first, THEN see to your children. They won’t have any chance of survival if they don’t have you to look after them. The same goes with your wellbeing, you need to prioritize time to look after yourself so that you can be more present, energetic and balanced as a mother.
3 Reasons putting yourself first makes you a better mum
- You cannot care for others to your best ability if your own cup is not full!
Putting others first all of the time can NEVER sustain us long term. Eventually it drains us – physically, mentally and emotionally. Putting ourselves first is necessary for our wellbeing AND the wellbeing of our family. We need to make time to do the things that make us feel good, that bring us joy and make us laugh, things that fill up our emotional fuel tanks.
2. Feeling well balanced helps you become more present with your children!
When we are tired, overwhelmed and ‘out of balance’ it is impossible to be present with our children. Making time for self care makes us feel worthwhile and valued, allowing us to make the time we have with our children quality time. We are more patient, kind and caring towards them when we have loved ourselves enough to make our wellbeing a priority.
3. Looking after yourself sets a good example to your children to love and value themselves!
Have a think about how you would feel if you could see your children’s lives 25 years from now, you could see the way they were living and how they were treating themselves. How would you feel if your children were treating themselves the same way you are treating yourself? If you feel good about this thought then you are probably on the right track. If you get an icky feeling or feel sad or disappointed, think about how you would like them to change what they are doing. This may give you a clue as to what you could change to start treating yourself a little better and putting yourself first!
So mama, make a commitment to do something to put yourself first this week, I would love to hear your thoughts and commitment in the comments below.
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