As Mums we are always focusing our attention and energy on the well being of others, especially our families. According to Shame and Vulnerability Researcher Brene Brown, women, and particularly mothers tend to feel shame predominantly when they are ‘unable to do it all’.
As women and Mothers we are running around trying to please everyone but at the same time we are often working, studying, running businesses, cooking, cleaning, chauffeuring, watching, listening, shopping, feeding, playing and helping our kids to learn, sleep and be happy! Phew…. No wonder we are exhausted.
It is time to let go of the notion that we should be able to do it all.
It is time to get real about how we feel when we can’t do it all.
It is time to get honest with each other about what being a Mum is really like.
It is time to prioritise and value ourselves and let our emotional wellbeing and our mental health get some love!
So what can you do right now to make it happen?
- Slow Down. It honestly doesn’t matter if your kid does not attend all those activities such as; swimming, sports, music lessons, dance performances for a short time. If it means more quality time with a nicer, calmer version of you (as in slow, unstructured, chilled out family time) then it is super worth it.
- Practise gratitude for yourself, every single day. At the end of the day, remind yourself what you did well today, congratulate and thank yourself for being awesome. Try ‘I am a great Mum, my kids love me because I love them’ OR ‘Today I drove my child to soccer practice, my child is lucky to have me because I care’.
- Find a way to connect with other Mums who you can speak frankly, candidly and honestly with about how tough this gig really is. Use social media to your advantage to reach out and create your tribe, your village of parents who can help and support each other.
Give yourself permission to put yourself a little higher on your own priority list. Look after you as you are the only you they have.
If the information shared in this post resonated with you, If you are a Mum in Southern Adelaide who has ever felt lonely, judged or overwhelmed as a Parent then the Tree House Mamas Support Circle is for you.
A 6 week group program for All Mums starting October 15th in Aldinga.